baitranger

We all have to trust someone sometimes ; no matter how careful you are you can be used , abused ect .You were young and naive , trusting , in love and got hurt . As other posters have said , it could have been worse ; you could have lost more money , you could have been older and lost your house , life savings ; you could have caught AIDS and suffered physically and mentally for the rest of your life . You can put this experience behind you without blaming yourself - but it's certain to make you more cautious next time ; maybe that's not a bad thing . I had to find a plumber recently to do some work at my house ; plumbers - and honest plumbers are not so easy to find here . Anyway , eventually I found one who would come to look at the work I needed and eventually after literally over a month of my trying to find someone , he gave me a reasonable price and did the work - or nearly finished it , I should say . Because he worked hard all day , because he seemed honest , open ect and because I felt a little mean about not paying him after all of his hard work , I paid him all the money for the job before he'd finished . It was something I've promised myself I'll never do after a previous bad experience. Anyway , he promised to come back the next day to finish the job - and he did come back . Everything is fine , I had a good job done at a reasonable price and now have the number of a reasonable , trustworthy tradesman . Should I have trusted him : maybe not - but I'm only human and I made a mistake . I should have told him that I was pleased with the job so far , may be that I'd pay half with the rest being paid on completion .As it happens I took a chance for no reason other than that I felt sorry for him - a foolish emotion you might say . What has this got to do with your situation ? Nothing much perhaps , except that what you trusted this girl with was not just some pipes in the house , but with your life and your feelings .And when the woman is from another culture , it's harder to understand what she's up to - and then there's the translation problem - translation not just of the language but also of her cultural beliefs into yours .There are some people we have to trust because we have very little choice -we trust the train driver not to be drunk ect but this was a situation where you did have a choice and you allowed your heart to dictate to your head . I wish you well for the future but think you have gone a little too far , because of your emotional pain , in posting pictures of yourself and your former GF on your website . She didn't commit a murder ! And as other posters have pointed out , it's not only because she is Thai that this happened ; it's because she's a human being and human beings are fallible , selfish and unreliable at times .