Why not wed ?

[nidnoyham 30]

I was just wondering, how many of you have a regular Thai lady, but have not got married ?

 

I have had same lady for over 2 years, and am sometimes asked if I will ever marry. My answer is no, but when asked why, I find it hard to explain. As fond of her as I am, it is difficult to put my finger on one reason alone. My kids love her, she is visiting U.K for 2nd time next month, speaks good English and we get on really well- most of the time !

 

Is it becoming the family ATM ? Taking on 2 young kids at my age ? The cultural difference ? Would she ever be happy living away from her family, 'cos I wouldn't live in LOS on a permanent basis.

 

I know many of you are married to Thai's and very happy, but just wondering what reason others had, not to "Thai the knot".

 

Anyway perhaps it's just not for me. Once bitten, twice shy.

[laffnliv 78]

"Once bitten, twice shy." I damn sure can relate to that! How about, " Twice bitten, all fucked up!"

My Thai lady is the best thing that has happened to me, but....... I am afraid that getting married will just complicate things. I have two daughters in the US, and grandchildren. I don't want to complicate things for them legally upon my death. Have discussed all that with my tirac and there is no problem. I have a Thai will which leaves my assets in Thailand to my Thai "wife". Due to the scars I have from my failed marriages, this also gives me a way out if things with my Thai wife go bad. We have been together now for over two years. So far things just get better and better. In all due respect to her, however, women are weird! They often change. I pray that does not happen here, but because of the memory I have of what happened before, I need to know I have a way to end things without being ruined financially.

Yes, I am still carrying some scars from what happened before.

Maybe one day the scars will heal....?

Roy

[nidnoyham 30]

Laffnliv,

 

I understand your view.

 

And I can relate to your situation regarding your own family. It is important to be as open with your Thai lady as you can. Mine has met my family, including my seperated wife, and they are all very fond of each other, I wonder if that would change should I divorce and re-marry ?

 

My GF has told me that if I should propose, she would say yes, but she does not expect me to, this however is not a problem for her, as long as we see each other as often as we can, she can live with that. And, absence does make the heart grow fonder.

 

Think I will grow old with her as my partner, and look after her as such.

Some may say I am being selfish, but to marry may spoil the relationship we are enjoying. :)

[laffnliv 78]

Yes, the signing of that "piece of paper" has signalled the end of many a good relationship. But.....there I go being cynical again.

Roy

[wombat 5]

cynical

no way........its a fact of life......check the stats on it.

[nidnoyham 30]

Wombat. I love your 1 liner posts.. To the point, heartfelt and true