What To Do

[tangent 42]

I am new here and have not been to Thailand yet.  I am planning my trip now.  I am planning getting things planned out and set up.  From reading this board I have to say I am really looking forword to going.  All the stories of beautiful Thai ladies and the fun everyone seems to have on their trip really got me long for my departure date.  I was looking to spend my time in Pattaya and take a different girl for each of my 4 weeks there.  I figured this would allow me to enjoy the pleasures of a few of the beauties but still have that gf feeling by staying a week with each girl.

 

My situation is this, over the course of planning my trip I met a Thai lady.  The type of lady that everyone here would call the good Thai girl.   She works for the same company as I do.   She is at the Thai office and me here at the Canadian one.  We got to know each other during business calls.  Moving ahead alittle over the past few months we have started to get alittle friendly and comfortable with each other.  

 

She has asked me if I would like to spend time with her when I am there.  I think she is a wonderful woman and in my opinion very beautiful.   So I would love to spend time with her.  My problem is how do I go about spending time with her and still enjoy the other pleasures Thailand has to offer?  Her being the good thai girl I do not think she would look kindly on me spending time with BG's.    Any suggestions or ideas?

[BigDUSA 71]

You need to make a deceision here. The good Thai girl that may end up being the BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED to you ;D or the BG route? Up to you as the BG's like to say.

 

You need to give more details about work. Is your office in BKK or Pattaya. Comming to Pattaya on the weekends or what? Is this a one trip deal ?

 

I would suggust you go out on a date and see where this takes you. Let it play out but don't fuck her as this can get sticky with a co-worker.  Good Thai girl who you hit it off with could be........ If your in BKK check out the following   www.bkktonight.com

 

Good up to date info, accurate.

[rockinjerry 2]

Hi Tangent:

 

Like Big DUSA asked, is she in BKK or Pattaya? If BKK, I would meet her and take her out to dinner but keep it friendly; no immediate sex even if there should be "signals and an indicated willingness." Remember; she is a co-worker in the same company even if different countries.

 

No matter BKK or Pattaya really, I just think easier if she is in BKK, as I think it is perfectly understandable that this is your first trip to Thailand and that you want to see the country and the sites and that Pattaya is on your schedule to check out as "you have made friends there via internet with fellow Canadians, Expats."

 

If your dinner goes well with her you can always schedule another one, or take her to the movies or let her suggest places to go on a night out.

 

I would not deprive myself of the pleasures of Pattaya lovilies without first exploring, sampling them because I think that would be a mistake, especially since this is your first trip and you already have a plan of action drawn up.

 

Don't cut yourself short! Go and have a good time and play it by ear with the lady. If there is a chemistry between you two, you can always folllow-up. She has to realize that you are on holiday and have already made plans. Yes, most all of us go to Pattaya for the nightlife but not all. So just be cool about it and go and enjoy!

 

Rockin'

[tangent 42]

Thanks guys for the info.  Well BigDUSA my office is here in Toronto Canada her office is in BKK.  We are basicaly in the same position at our respectful offices.   Trust I know that having a good Thai girl would be a wonderful thing to have in my life.  There is something about her that is just amazing.  

 

You have made some great points Rockinjerry.  We do have plans to go out to dinner and she has offered to show me around and even cook me a triditional Thai dinner.  

 

So far I have not told her my travel plans ie where in Thai I will be going to.  She knows I will be in BKK for several days but after that she has no idea.  I have some thinking to do.  Thanks for the advoice guys.

[rockinjerry 2]

Tangent:

 

The thing about the Thai ladies is that they "are all amazing!" Some just more so than others. Before you fall in love with this amazing lady in BKK, and it is soooo easy to fall in love with these delightful ladies of Thailand as they are truly different than those we are use to in western culture, I would definitely give myself the experience of visiting Pattaya.

 

Thailand does not have the official slogin "Amazing Thailand" for nothing!

 

It seems to me that you already have an infactuation with the lady in BKK and maybe she is the one for you. But, don't short change yourself by missing the pleasures of Pattaya. Lot's of culture down there and only a 2-hour cab ride if you take the toll roads!

 

Go get "em Tangent and Enjoy! Good luck and let us know how the trip turns out.

 

Rockin'

[UTAH-SAINT 0]

If she doesn't take it up the ass on the first night,then boot her out of the room,and get your ass down to Eden!

[Dougie 0]

Tangent,

Take it as you find it, go easy though, remember she is a work colleague, and your work relationship could be compromised all too easily by a wrong move. Make her feel important, as losing face would  be the worst thing that could happen to her. If there is no future in it then it might be best to play it so she realises this and initiates the "cooling off" process. This way she will not lose face.

Of course, you might prefer the cultured approach advocated by Utah-Saint ::)

Dougie

[tangent 42]

Thanks everyone some great advoice here.   I have to agree rockeinjerry Thai woman are amazing and you may be right I do like the lady from BKK (Dar) there is something about her.  

 

Utah-Saint, she is not the kind of lady to do that and I am not going to kick her out.  During our conversations we have  become  friends and I look forword to spending sometime with her at the very least.

 

Thanks Dougie, I think your right I have to just take it as it comes.  I can spend the first few days with her and than off to Pattaya for a few days.  After that decided how I want to spend the rest of the holiday.

[kjvegas 2]

I met a Thai girl similair to the way you met your, she worked in Taiwan for an electric company. She also had 2 daughters.  After getting to know her, I thought she was amazing.  I have been to Thailand seven times in the past few years (three for her).  I helped her and two daughters come to America and live with me in a beautiful house, the kids (5 and 6) went to a good school, I even bought her a new car. Then she started gambling and anyone who knows Thai woman they can be compulsive with what they do, I live in Las Vegas where there is alot of gambling.  When things ended up sour she was very violent, I cancelled her petition and she had to go back to Thailand (she was here on a fiance visa), married only 6 months.  That was  last year and now I travel to Thailand 3 times a year and I try to leave my heart at home.  It is very easy to fall in love with any Thai woman,  even a bar girl they are very sweet, beautiful, amazing.  

 I would suggest go to Thailand and be selfish.   I would also say have an open mind.  She sounds like a great girl, she is probably educated which I feel is very important (mine wasn't)  there may very well be a future with her.   She may be the best thing that ever happens to you.  There is not a better feeling in the world then falling in love.    If things don't work out head to Pattaya, what a place .  But I think you may have found a good one.  good luck :)

kevin

[tangent 42]

Sorry to hear things didn't work out for you Kevin.  I hope you find that special one.  

 

Yes, the girl I am talking about is educated.  She has a good job and has been there for over 6 years now.  There is something about her that just makes my heart pound when I talk to her.   She doesn't act like other girls.  She just had a birthday and I wanted to send her alittle gift.  She would not accept anything.  When I offered again she said all she wanted was for me to call her and sing Happy Birthday to her.  She did not want me to spend my money on her.  

 

I think thing may have worked themselves out for me.   My company is sending me to BKK for 4 days on business and than onto Korea.  Before leaving for Korea I have 4 days off to just relax.  I will use these 4 days to spend with her.  If things work out when I go back for my holiday I will spend the first 2 weeks in Pattaya being selfish and enjoying all the pleasure LOS has to offer  before going back to BKK to spend a week with her again.  

[BigDUSA 71]

I hope your willing to give us updates. Almost all the guys on these boards only meet BG. Rare to have a member meet a non pay for play girl.

 

Maybe she turns out to be the best thing that ever happened to you!! Wish you all the best. ;D

[kjvegas 2]

Tangent,

 Hope you have a great time with her, she sound like a winner.  The Thai woman I know in America and in Thailand (her family) are for the most part very good and their husbands or boyfriends are very happy.   There are a few that are real bad but that is with every culture.  When I first met my Thai girl everything was so good, we were very happy. We had planned on getting married, I sent out invitations.  One of my friends wanted to go to my wedding, but I did not know his address.   My friend and I are Casino dealers in Las Vegas and we used to work together.    So we hand delivered his.  Walking out of the casino my girl was a little curious about the 5 cent slot machines, I figure what's a couple bucks.  That was the biggest mistake I made in that relationship.  Now everyday she wants go gamble, she even would take one of the cars while I was sleeping even though she could not drive.  She became very compulsive, now about $10,000 US later and a beautiful diamond wedding ring she pawned the relationship was over.  My Thai girl was a nightmare.  Even after what I went through I do believe there are some very good Thai woman.  The good ones I have known are educated (very important),  responsible and caring.  When you go to Thailand and if you hit it off with her, this girl is going to pamper you.  You probably won't want to go to Pattaya, If you are curious about Pattaya ask her to take you to the beach, that is what I did (I played dumb) I knew about Pattaya before I ever went to Thailand.     I live in Las Vegas and I can honestly say Pattaya makes Las Vegas look like Sunday School.  What a town.  Again best of luck to you, keep us updated on your Thai girl, she sounds like a winner. :)

kevin

[kjvegas 2]

Tangent,

 Also you have got to check out the Elephant / Thai Culture show.  The elephants are something else.  After the show you can have your picture taken with them.  I had the elephant pick me up by its trunk.  The show is about 15 minutes outside of Pattaya.  I am going to Pattaya in one week and hope to check it out.  One more bit of advice, many tourist get sick when they go to Thailand, the first two times I went I got sick (my Thai girl's family lives in the country) and I was in the hospital.  Now when I eat Thai food in Thailand, I drink a beer or two, usually after dinner.  I haven't been sick since (knock on wood)

kevin

[rockinjerry 2]

Tangent:

 

Sounds like a good plan, go meet her and spend the four days with her to get to know her. Just remember, both of you "will put on your best face" as it is clear that a romance has already started long distance.

 

Not clear if after Korea you will be going directly to LOS and Pattaya or back home first and LOS later on this year?

 

I wish you well with this lady, but in my opinion you should be selfish for yourself and have the Pattaya experience before getting too involved with her. It is sooo easy to fall in love with these lovely Thai ladies and especially one that is well educated and is responsible like your lady; working same job for 6-years, etc. You owe it to yourself to do some "window shopping!"

 

All these ladies are looking for a better way of life, to improve their station in life be it if they are business women or, are bar girls. Who can blame them?

 

I guess what I am trying to say is don't fall in love with the first lady that you meet no matter from what walk of life she is in.

 

This lady may indeed be the one for you. But before you leap, sample other wears! You owe it to yourself!

 

Just my 2-baht worth!

 

Rockin'

[Jimmybb 0]

Tangent, If I were looking for a legit hook-up as opposed to what the rest of the whoremongers and I are looking for in LOS, I would not stay at a hotel like the Nana whilst  you are in BKK getting to know this lady.  I would probably stay out of the NEP area and maybe stay, for the short term, in an area that is not part of the bar girl  and gogo scene.  Just a suggestion.  Jimmy

[tangent 42]

Thanks guys,  alittle bump in the road.  With the SARS outbreak my company has stop all over seas business trips.   So my 4 days in BKK before my regular trip has been called off.

 

So i have decided to spend my first 12 days in Pattaya and the rest in BKK with her.  Thanks for the advice Jimmybb about staying at  a hotel away from the action when in BKK.  I had never even considered that.

 

Again everyone thanks for your advice and opinions.

[JohnnyK 28]

Just browsing around and came across this thread which was really interesting.

Tangent, what happened in the end? Apologies if you posted the rest of the story elsewhere.

JohnnyK