Investigation?

[peteboy 0]

Pleaseadvise.

 

A company called pattayaprivateinvestigations.com can do an ivestigation on my g/f, I knowthe awnser already but is it worth finding out the truth ??

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peteboy.

[jimmybcool 0]

peteboy,

 

You don't give enough info to form an opinion.  What truth are you after?

 

Look, if she was a bar girl when you met her, she is probably still a bar girl when you leave.

 

While I think it possible to have a relationship with one of these girls, that is ONLY if you live there.  Once you are gone, she is back on the game.

[kjvegas 2]

NEVER TRUST ANYTHING THAT BLEEDS FOR A WEEK AND WON'T DIE ;D

[Jimmybb 0]

Yep, If you've a mind to spend good cash checking on a tg, then go for it-but you gotta keep one thing in mind. These girls have to make a living, and they are not going to the Big C to become a clerk in a store.  They will do just what they did before you met them-go with farangs for the cash. Is it painful to think about a tg with whom you feel you made a "connection?" ABSOLUTELY!  But you are wherever you are, and they are in Pattaya doing what they must, and to pine to the point that it totally interrupts your life, will only give you untold angst.  Live the fantasy whilst you are in LOS, and do your level best to let it go until you are there again.  Nobody said it was going to be easy.  Jimmy

[kjvegas 2]

Peteboy,

 I say just go and see for yourself.  Whatever happens no problem,  just party your ass off if you confirm her wild lifestyle.   Why would these girls stay in Pattaya if they are not going to go with farangs.  The most important thing for these girls is money.   I know alot of Thai woman here in America that have 2 boyfriends and they never worked in Bars.   Good luck.

[nidnoyham 30]

Peteboy,

Asking someone to investigate a bar girl, is like asking them to go into a lions cage to see if they bite! Asyou say you already know the answer.

Asking a bar girl to wait for you, is like asking a petrol station to close when you have filled up and not open till you need more gas. they are in the business of serving the public, thats you and me son.

I have a TG have known her for 18 months and now she lives at home near Pitchet- or does she? As long as she is waiting for me at the airport it doesn't matter to me,  we still enjoy each others company, and she is coming to England next month for a visit.

The third time we met at the airport, I asked her a question and got a reply in German, now I could have got the hump, but I teased her about it instead,that actually made us closer together, she likes to think that I am not trying to stiffle her, or her income.

We are now very close, but if I had her investigted in the first place, we woud probably be apart, lf you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesn't, it never was.  

[monkeyman 1,604]

peteboy

 

Reminds me of a couple of years ago. A BG was telling me how she'd just come back from Bangkok airport after bidding a tearful farewell to this guy she'd been with for several weeks.

 

We were in bed at the time.

 

They may like you, you may connect. But chances are they'll be screwing someone else as soon as your plane leaves the ground.

 

be seeing you

monkeyman

[Guest chrisgng22]

nid phitchit hey? is she selling candy with her mom by any chance???

[SlipSlopSlap 186]

Peteboy,

 

Like monkeyman, I think we all have similar stories.  A few years ago on a particular occasion I was introduced to the (real) sister of a bargirl I was with.

 

The sister had an attractive young Thai guy in tow, and was splashing the cash on themselves in the bar we were in.

 

While the sister was all over the thai guy like a rash, my bargirl, without batting an eyelid, explaned to me that her sister was back in Thailand for a short time visiting the family by herself, as she had married a Swedish guy and had moved to Sweden.

 

I asked the sister if she had found it difficult moving to a new country to live.   She told me it wasn't, because she had never intended to stay overseas for more than a few years.

 

And then turned her attention back to her Thai boyfriend.

[nidnoyham 30]

Chris, no candy.

But a nice line in Bananas & Coconuts, perhaps it was when she was putting out the fruit she happened to put a Banana between 2 nuts and that gave her the idea of working in Pattaya. Anyway we get on fine and the ballance of power lies in the fact that we both acknowledge that she need me more than I need her.  Having seen how poor her family is, I can never believe it is not my money that is number 1 and me between 2 and 10 somewhere.  

[valentinoxxx 4]

Just to put another side to it... I have a TG friend who, after talking with me for a while, realised what  a horrible job it was. She left Pattaya and now resides with her sister in Bkk. Jing jing.

 

She is now considering her options. Going back to Pattaya isn't one of them.

She is one of the girls who actually prefer not to be barfined and would just work overtime for extra tips, serving drinks.

 

The paradox is, that I am not interested in an intimate relationship, whereas I seem to meet good girls.(another TG friend in Pattaya works in a shop, nothing to do with the P4P scene) whereas the guys who are interested seem to meet the somewhat dubious characters.

[nidnoyham 30]

Valentino, you are right about the ones looking for love meeting the bad ones. A work mate of mine married one, once she had the British Passport she was off with a new man, leaving her husband to bring up her 2 Thai kids in England.

He now as a baby by another TG who demands £200 on a regular basis, he is a smashing bloke, would never pull in U.K, But these girls seem to have an instinct for a sucker, like an animal can detect fear, they pick up on a fool and his money- strange isn't it ?

Luckily in my later years, I do my thinking above the waist, thirty years too late but there you are,  

[Bigfinger 0]

Yup,

It's just happened to me.

Thai g/f who loved me sooooo much and wanted for us to be together forever etc was going home to visit her family and get her kids ready for the new school term.

She said she would not be able to e=mail me because no internet shops where she lived and probably not phone because no signal up in hills but she would think of me everyday and could not wait till she returned so we could talk again etc etc.

I will not bore you with all the details of our past relationship etc but I really thought this one was different and I believed everything she told me ( yes I have been caught out before..but I could not see any of the signs in her ).

So I called her mobile every day but it was always on the answer service...no problem I thought...probably no signal,so she has switched it off.

But one day earlier this week I called her at a time I had never called her before and from a phone I had not called her from.........She answered.....Hi I said it is me........silence....then one of the most stilted and difficult phone calls ever before under a barrage of questions she blurted out she was with boyfriend...Thai boyfriend I said......no she said Farang !So caught in the act.....what could I say I was stunned,so I said goodbye and hung up.Suddenly all the little things fell into place.

What a star turn she has turned out to be,she made my last Thai g/f look like an amateur.Should have known better of course been warned often enough but you always believe this one is different...they're not,they all drink from the same cup.Cant blame them really but it still comes as a shock.

Oh yes nearly forgot..................she works at the FLB !

 

Bigfinger

[BigDUSA 71]

Bigfinger,

 

Does she still work at the FLB? Was she here in Pattaya with her boy friend? How long had you know here? I'm talking about actual time spent with her. Big age difference? Level of english?

[Bigfinger 0]

Hi BigD,

 

Yes she still works at the FLB.She says she is 33 I am 46 but look younger.English was so so just general chit chat on phone,the 'meaningful' stuff was kept for e-mails ( the longest I had gone without an e-mail from her was 4 days until last week ).

I do not know where she is with boyfriend she did not say when I asked in that fateful phone call but he was there.

I was with her for 4 days in Pattaya then I left for Koh Samui....I then rang her up and told her to get a flight down,which she did.......we had a great time.This was for about a week-all this took place in February.As I have already said we have kept in constant touch ever since.In fact we were due to go away on holiday together in August.

I take it from your questions you have an inkling as to who the young lady is ?

I await your reply with interest.

 

Bigfinger

[valentinoxxx 4]

Peteboy is looking suspiciously like an advertiser.

[SabaiCedd 0]

Bigfinger

 

can you say where this Lady has her home?

Some of this really does sound familiar and the stories

seem pretty much spot on! Timing fits in too.....I could be wrong but I am very suspicious by nature and having just had something very similar happen makes me wonder.

 

SabaiCedd

[Bigfinger 0]

Hey,

 

This seems to have stirred up a few people.I have had 3 people wanting to know more.How many does she have !!!!!!

Private messages have been sent to the interested parties with more info.

 

Bigfinger

[cbrib 354]

Save your money, many investigation services will tell you what you want to hear or they need more time and more money. Better if you have a friend in town and ask him to pop in on the bar she used to work or even her friends bar. If you have time you may want to show up unannounced or tell her you are coming a few days after you are actually coming in. See for yourself. As the others have stated the answer is basically obvious. Hope this helps. Cheers, B-Man!

[SabaiCedd 0]

From what I know it seems there's more than one girl at the bar using the same routine, same story etc ...so all I can add is Buyer Beware! It happens at all bars and its so easy to get caught up in the moment.

 

SabaiCedd

[BigDUSA 71]

From what I know it seems there's more than one girl at the bar using the same routine, same story etc ...so all I can add is Buyer Beware! It happens at all bars and its so easy to get caught up in the moment.

 

SabaiCedd

 

We seem to buy into the BS and for the most part, we are customer's to the girl. Sometimes the girl will start to like the guy and that's when the fun begin's. The web of lies the girls tell themselves and to the customer is hard to keep straight. Let's not forget the web of lies, BS we tell the girls. Damm the illusion is powerfull.

[SabaiCedd 0]

Yep you are right BigDUSA!

We do tell them a lot of BS too, but they seem more clever at spinning tales than us...more practise I guess! As you say the illusion is powerful ....and dangerous too!

It comes down to keeping your feet on  the ground at all times and remember what their work is, but that is not an easy thing to do if you relax and allow them in.

[BigDUSA 71]

The BG will talk and swap what work's. They are like inmates in jail. They have alot of free time to figure out ways to escape/relieve your wallet. ;D ;D ;D

[SabaiCedd 0]

Oh Yeah! they have many ways of relieving your wallet of lots of Baht, and long after you leave LOS too if you are not careful   ;D

Its a learning thing every trip thats for sure!

[Bigfinger 0]

Hi all,

 

Well after further investigations I now know there are at least 4 of us been taken for 'Patsies'.How many more ?She must have a comprehensive tick list to keep track of us all !

What a star she is....................****  from the FLB take a bow.Bar Girl supreme.

 

Muggins