Bringing a Bargirl to my country. Good or bad idea

[jacko 8,815]

No it's not a wind up. it would be cheaper to get the local girls. Being i would be paying for her flight, food entertainment and her lost wages.

 

YES i will want to have sex with her, but it's also for her too. As i have said i've known her for 9 months and was just with her.

 

I enjoy her company and i think it would be fun for both of us however i just need to sleep on it for a bit as i already mentioned.

 

I think i've gotten all the advise i need and now it's up to me to make up my mind. The whole situation is a lot easier to explain in person.

 

No, you spent 5 days with her on your last trip (why only 5 days in 2 weeks?), plus whatever small time during a prior trip when you first met her.

Shall we say 12 days you have known her?

You said, like your dentist, if he does your teeth you pay him, if you have sex with her, you will pay her too....

 

It is up to you mate, but I think you are misreading the situation. Here is someone you have known for a few days and you are planning on flying her over half way around the world to have her sit in your apartment waiting for you to come home from work and fuck her. Whether it is fun for her or not, I belive she will look upon it as work, or an opportunity for a long term relationship. She may also do a runner with the money you send her for the trip.

 

I hope the sleep helped...

[Esco 19]

scott

 

trust me it is very difficult for a thai lady to to get a visa

for Canada

 

especially a lady who works bar

 

Heard that as well. They´re a lot stricter in Canada and the US than in Europe.

 

Even if it was easy I would advise him not to do it.

 

It´s your cock messing with your brain mate let it go.

[lovedog100 1,372]

Scott, all this back and forth justifying your reasons for bringing her to your country is really meaningless banter. If you want to do it, it's up to you. What anyone else thinks is meaningless. You are a man, and you know the pitfalls. Truthfully, many of us would do it if we could. I'd like to take Jane to the US with me for a month. It's virtually imposable. It would take a lot of time to get her a visa, and I would have to deposit more money into her account that my trust of a Thai lady would allow. Even one that I have been with for two years.

 

You need to look at your countries visa requirements. They can be found here. http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/visit/apply-who.asp Also go on the different Thailand boards and do a search "Canadian tourist visa" and read others accounts of what they have had to go through to get a visa for a Thai lady. Thaivisa will give you the largest amount of information on the subject.

 

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/times/temp.asp check out this page as well

[Irish boy 67]

Oh Irish Boy,

Didn't you know that 3rd parties are always vast repositories of knowledge. They know everything about everything.

 

 

FatherMojo

Yes, but don't forget his is 'diiferent'..............only his, no one else's is allowed to be, and she's so different, he has to spend his time trying to big himself up on basically a Thai Mongers Forum, like we give a fuck................laughable

Even if it was easy I would advise him not to do it.

 

It´s your cock messing with your brain mate let it go.

 

That's about it Esco, he's got the Fever bad, we've all been there................let it go Scotty, you're only back, it'll pass mate. Why not stay in contact with her, try to get to know her better. So when you go back again, things might be different then.

 

By the way, how do you know she would be even up for going if you could? Have you asked her, cos many will, but many don't want to as well..............shy, scared, never been on a plane before ect ect.............it's a big big thing for an Isaan girl who is not 'worldly wise' mate

[Guest cocodile]

Best not listen to a like shithoneypot.

 

Like has been said, do what you think is best, but don't underestimate the Visa horror, I assume the policy is like in the US, so it means it's virtually impossible, and when it gets granted, she might be a granny by that time.

 

Quite surprised actually, that you weren't aware of the Visa thingy, thought you were taking the piss.

 

And one more not unimportant thing, if she gets over there, and decides to continue her profession in Canada, you will most likely be held liable for all the shit that's coming out of it.

 

Anyway, good luck with whatever you do, and keep us updated.

Edited February 26, 2011 by cocodile

[GREEN MALAKA 56]

Heard that as well. They´re a lot stricter in Canada and the US than in Europe.

 

Even if it was easy I would advise him not to do it.

 

It´s your cock messing with your brain mate let it go.

 

 

scott

 

i tried for 2 years to bring a thai lady to canada

lots of paper work from my end in canada and her end in thailand

did everything by the book and was refused twice

 

yes she was a bar lady

 

do not use a visa agency here in thaialnd if are thinking about it

 

your only allowed to use a licensed visa agency in canada and it is expensive

[Siam Sam 964]

Sam, Thank you for your post, I loved your tr and it's a shame not more people read it Although 5-6000 views is alot but anyways

 

Thank you for your advice, i knew before posting i would get flamed from a few bm's but i did learn a few things.

 

The main thing, that i guess i didn't explain it well is i consider her a friend not a girlfriend or sponcer. There is zero chance of me sponcering her. I have known her for 9-10 months and again where friends. I don't think she would take advantage of my friendship as she refused several things I wanted to buy her cause she thought it was to much money. I know a lot of bm's would think this a game she's playing but i don't. She's never asked me for money in the 10 months i've known her. She only asked for her money that i was paying her when we where in bangkok mid trip since she had to send it to her mom for her daughter. I know she sent since i went to the bank with her and saw her send it. When she left a few days later she didn't ask for more money or anything but i bought her some clothes from the soi cybercow market but at my behest not hers.

 

I was primarlily looking for the hurrdles i will be facing when "if" i get her come over.

 

ricktoronto rose a great point about the visa's i had no idea about.

 

someone else brought up that a friend of his brought a girl and she took off.

 

As i said i consider her a friend and i like hanging out with her she's fun, If i have the means why not bring a friend over for a visit and yes she does sell herself to pay the bills and if i have sex with her then of course i will be paying her, same as if my friend the dentist does my teeth i have to pay him for his services.

 

Another Bm brought up about making sure she knows this is just for fun not a relationship. It would be cruel of me to lead her on.

 

the meaning of the post was for bm's to help me bring up questions that i wouldnt have thought of like the ones above.

the one that i have the most trouble with is the Visa's. i'm pretty young so if somehow i get robbed or whatever and she takes my money it's only money i can earn more.

 

I need a lot more thought on it and I thank everybody ( except Stinky ) for there opinens

 

Considering this is a mongers forum I was surprised my TR did as well as it did but I think if people take the time to read it there is a lot of relevant information there about many different aspects to Thailand. If you want my honest opinion on your situation then I have to agree with jacko, I don't think you should bother. It seems like an awful lot of hassle to go to just to spend two weeks with your girl in your home country. Why not just spend the time together somewhere in Thailand? Somewhere like Chiang Mai? I know why you want to do this, and it's probably because you want her to get a feel for your culture and you also want to see if it is possible you two could live together in your home country. Two weeks IMHO isn't enough time to establish that.

 

The thing that worries me is that you still pay her money when you have sex with her and that means that you are both clear as to the true nature of your relationship, which is more of an "arrangement" than a relationship. Continue your relationship with her in Thailand but give her the acid test......tell her you're not prepared to pay her any more when you have sex with her. See what her response to that is. For me, it could well be the thing that will tell you exactly where your relationship is going.......

 

I once brought a girl (from Chaiyaphum) to my country (Holland) for a 2 weeks holidays back in the early 90's. I flew with her from Thailand to be sure she had no troubles at the immigration (we had not). First thing she said when we left the airport was "Why are all the trees dead?" (no leaves as it was winter). We had lots of fun the two weeks despite being very cold for her. I showed her around and she was genuinely curious and interested. I even left her alone for 2 days to attend some business, but never had any problems. She had no intention to stay so I put her back on the plane 2 weeks later. It was fun for all.

 

The tourist visa required quite some paper work and I had to vouch for her fiancially. Some visits to our embassy in Bangkok helped us to smooth out things. We had to prove that we knew each other for some years (emails, letters), but generally all went smoothly. Not sure how about now. I never took her or another girl to my country again, it was just a one time thing.

 

I'm sure you learned a lot from your experience. Thanks for your very honest post.

 

Where is the role reversal ? You really are a moron and are losing badly here.

 

My girlfriend is currently working in New York, she is Thai and works for the Thai ambasador to the united nations in New York, do you really believe they employ ex whores for this kind of position ? Maybe for the first time you have met someone who has truly a "different" girl ? Stop being a prick, I chose not to get involved with that side of Pattaya, if it works for you ok, but it's not for me. Your arguments speak volumes ! You think a Farang cannot find a normal relationship here ? Try looking outside the bars and maybe you could find a "different" girl ?

 

Losing? Winning? What are you talking about? Is this how you see things? All I see is someone who is sad enough to come on a mongers forum, criticise somebody else for believing they have a "girl that is different" and then, lo and behold you announce that your wife is really the one that is "different" because she works for the Thai ambassador in New York. Priceless. As for your wife, whether it's true what you say about her or not I think you should save it for someone who cares.........just read the rest of the posts in this thread where people are criticising you and calling you a wanker etc. I have just read through the thread again and can't find any disparaging posts aimed at me except the garbage that you're coming out with......and you think you're winning? I'm not saying my girl is different in the purest sense of the phrase because I have already made it clear that she used to work in NEP, something I have no qualms about whatsoever. If I'm being honest I quite like that fact. I used to monger in Thailand a lot so I'm exactly the sort of person that helps to perpetuate the sex industry in Thailand, exactly why I have no qualms about it OR marrying a girl from it as I have my own past too and it's probably way more chequered than my wife's. I DO know that I haven't ever sent money to her family and in almost two years of knowing her before she came to live here I only sent her money on a few occasions. Does that make her different? Does she qualify?

 

Oh, and your wife is still a whore. As you said, Thai bar girls have been a joke in the Western world for a long time now. Ever wonder how she got that promotion?

Edited February 26, 2011 by Siam Sam

[Irish boy 67]

Losing? Winning? What are you talking about? Is this how you see things? All I see is someone who is sad enough to come on a mongers forum, criticise somebody else for believing they have a "girl that is different" and then, lo and behold you announce that your wife is really the one that is "different" because she works for the Thai ambassador in New York. Priceless.

 

 

That's had me laughing all morning as well

 

 

Good Post in general by the way

[roorsoldja 325]

scott

 

i tried for 2 years to bring a thai lady to canada

lots of paper work from my end in canada and her end in thailand

did everything by the book and was refused twice

 

yes she was a bar lady

 

do not use a visa agency here in thaialnd if are thinking about it

 

your only allowed to use a licensed visa agency in canada and it is expensive

Thanks Bobby, I think you just settled it for me. Since where both Canadian and you tried and your older and prolly smarter and you where denied.

I've also met you a few times and you struck me as a straight forward guy. I guess it's not meant to happen.

You know Bobby you could have stopped this topic a few pages ago if you posted that

 

Thanks Again Bobby and everyone who was helpful.

 

Sigh.

[Esco 19]

Thanks Again Bobby and everyone who was helpful.

 

Sigh.

 

Just have a wank and get over it.

 

Thailand isn´t going anywhere.

 

If you wish to visit more frequently get yourself a job that will allow you to take more holidays or work offshore.

 

Bringing a bird back just so you can get your fix is not the solution mate.

[samfreeland 64]

scott

 

i tried for 2 years to bring a thai lady to canada

lots of paper work from my end in canada and her end in thailand

did everything by the book and was refused twice

 

yes she was a bar lady

 

do not use a visa agency here in thaialnd if are thinking about it

 

your only allowed to use a licensed visa agency in canada and it is expensive

my mate went through one of these agency's to bring his wife over. the whole exercise. very little change from 7k. and immigration can still say NO because they can.there a real class act. and asked him what kind of underwear she has. wanted letters. ph bills . anything to make it look like there doing there job.

Edited February 26, 2011 by samfreeland

[GREEN MALAKA 56]

Thanks Bobby, I think you just settled it for me. Since where both Canadian and you tried and your older and prolly smarter and you where denied.

I've also met you a few times and you struck me as a straight forward guy. I guess it's not meant to happen.

You know Bobby you could have stopped this topic a few pages ago if you posted that

 

Thanks Again Bobby and everyone who was helpful.

 

Sigh.

 

thanks scott

 

yes i am older not smarter it is just that i have experienced more

as you will every day of your life.

 

yes i could have posted that earlier but i wanted to let the post run

and see the responses.

 

good luck with your future and keep asking questions

 

quote from my father "son if you don't ask you will never know"

 

bobby

[cebual 31]

how will she bankrupt me and divorce me ? If she did come over it would be a 2 week holiday. I'm not married to her and i don't sponcer her, she just a friend of mine who i also enjoy having sex with.

"Just wait and see Sparky!"....Just wait and see!

[cebual 31]

Sam, Thank you for your post, I loved your tr and it's a shame not more people read it Although 5-6000 views is alot but anyways

 

Thank you for your advice, i knew before posting i would get flamed from a few bm's but i did learn a few things.

 

The main thing, that i guess i didn't explain it well is i consider her a friend not a girlfriend or sponcer. There is zero chance of me sponcering her. I have known her for 9-10 months and again where friends. I don't think she would take advantage of my friendship as she refused several things I wanted to buy her cause she thought it was to much money. I know a lot of bm's would think this a game she's playing but i don't. She's never asked me for money in the 10 months i've known her. She only asked for her money that i was paying her when we where in bangkok mid trip since she had to send it to her mom for her daughter. I know she sent since i went to the bank with her and saw her send it. When she left a few days later she didn't ask for more money or anything but i bought her some clothes from the soi cybercow market but at my behest not hers.

 

I was primarlily looking for the hurrdles i will be facing when "if" i get her come over.

 

ricktoronto rose a great point about the visa's i had no idea about.

 

someone else brought up that a friend of his brought a girl and she took off.

 

As i said i consider her a friend and i like hanging out with her she's fun, If i have the means why not bring a friend over for a visit and yes she does sell herself to pay the bills and if i have sex with her then of course i will be paying her, same as if my friend the dentist does my teeth i have to pay him for his services.

 

Another Bm brought up about making sure she knows this is just for fun not a relationship. It would be cruel of me to lead her on.

 

the meaning of the post was for bm's to help me bring up questions that i wouldnt have thought of like the ones above.

the one that i have the most trouble with is the Visa's. i'm pretty young so if somehow i get robbed or whatever and she takes my money it's only money i can earn more.

 

I need a lot more thought on it and I thank everybody ( except Stinky ) for there opinens

It is great to thank people for offering their opinions, but you need to actually pay attention and listen to others....Your whole idea is just so flawed it makes no sense.....Just make several trips visiting her, etc....FORGET BRINGING HER HOME!...unless you are going to Marry her....AND I RECOMMEND AGAINST MARRIAGE!....anyway, Best Wishes!

[henryski 6]

i say bring her over ..let her have a holiday ,,,3 to 6 months at your place no major extra cost on house hold bills ,,,a flight visa and wot you will spend on her at your home has got to be far less than you going and have your holiday in los ...go for it and enjoy it ..i know im going to do it with my little cracker

[MM 6,562]

i say bring her over ..let her have a holiday ,,,3 to 6 months at your place no major extra cost on house hold bills ,,,a flight visa and wot you will spend on her at your home has got to be far less than you going and have your holiday in los ...go for it and enjoy it ..i know im going to do it with my little cracker

 

 

But there is still that pesky little visa issue getting a young Thai girl (who works bar) a visa to Canada.

[MIGHTYONE 309]

But there is still that pesky little visa issue getting a young Thai girl (who works bar) a visa to Canada.

 

And considering the OP wasnt even sure a visa was needed originally you would have to doubt he would have the correct nous to provide the necessary info and documentation required. It's not straightforward.

 

Sympathies Scotty, just get ready for your next bash.

[roorsoldja 325]

And considering the OP wasnt even sure a visa was needed originally you would have to doubt he would have the correct nous to provide the necessary info and documentation required. It's not straightforward.

 

Sympathies Scotty, just get ready for your next bash.

Thanks.....

[jacko 8,815]

Scott, all this back and forth justifying your reasons for bringing her to your country is really meaningless banter. If you want to do it, it's up to you. What anyone else thinks is meaningless. You are a man, and you know the pitfalls. Truthfully, many of us would do it if we could. I'd like to take Jane to the US with me for a month. It's virtually imposable. It would take a lot of time to get her a visa, and I would have to deposit more money into her account that my trust of a Thai lady would allow. Even one that I have been with for two years.

 

You need to look at your countries visa requirements. They can be found here. http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/visit/apply-who.asp Also go on the different Thailand boards and do a search "Canadian tourist visa" and read others accounts of what they have had to go through to get a visa for a Thai lady. Thaivisa will give you the largest amount of information on the subject.

 

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/times/temp.asp check out this page as well

Go and see Paul King..... if he doeesn't get you the visa, he doesn't want your money!