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First of all I am the husband half of "weareacouple" however my wife feels the same about the subject. We have been married for 25 years and we admitted early on that we were both addicted to sex. When we are together the sex is great however we both travel a lot and we both use porn and masturbation to get what we need. When we discuss it with our friends (especially church friends) most of them say it is wrong and even cheating on our mate. I would love to have an open and honest discussion on the subject. 1908732439_7(2).jpg.8588767a477ccfa5a5268169b10c9b5f.jpg

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50 minutes ago, wombat said:

(especially church friends)

there is your problem...you can count me out

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you are right there, church friends are the most judgemental on what we feel is normal behavior

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12 hours ago, weareacouple said:

First of all I am the husband half of "weareacouple" however my wife feels the same about the subject. We have been married for 25 years and we admitted early on that we were both addicted to sex. When we are together the sex is great however we both travel a lot and we both use porn and masturbation to get what we need. When we discuss it with our friends (especially church friends) most of them say it is wrong and even cheating on our mate. I would love to have an open and honest discussion on the subject. 1908732439_7(2).jpg.8588767a477ccfa5a5268169b10c9b5f.jpg

It's natural, healthy and everybody does it at one time or another. It seems to be one of those taboo subjects in society which really is "out of bounds". It isn't discussed within families, it isn't discussed during banter at work (as such), and it is rarely, if ever, discussed socially.

The consensus among people not wanting to say the "M" word, is that it is "dirty", the actual name from years ago "self abuse" implies that it is something that we shouldn't be doing, but it has changed now to "self gratification" which still has questionable connotations. Most people refer to it as masturbation or one of its many other names, but it still seldom discussed.

With society being as it is, the sheer amount of porn available online gives an indication that it is still a major pastime of many males, females and those inbetween. It is a default setting for people without a partner, and adds quality of a sexual encounter to those who have one, but masturbation is seen as fulfilling a need for many rather than something that can be shared between a couple, hence your "church friends" reaction.

Bottom line being, if you enjoy it, do it. There are no negatives in doing it to fulfill a need, meet a climax or enhance a relationship. Absolutely no point in spending your life doing stuff you don't enjoy, because there is more than enough time we spend doing that kind of shit.

Lastly, if that's your Mrs in the pic, her tits are epic.

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I spent over 20 years in the Navy and 'wanking' was taken as a normal function when away at sea for a long time, Jokes abounded in the messes about it.

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Without commenting on the wider subject I have found it a reasonably normal conversation with Thai girls. I even had one Thai lady tell me that she was open with her son as she would rather he did that than get some teenager pregnant. I think we could be surprised how many Thai girls have a "Buzz Buzz" in the bedside cabinet.

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For guys living in Thailand it is very easy to hire it done. Most massage parlors offer a happy ending.

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9 hours ago, Gary said:

For guys living in Thailand it is very easy to hire it done. Most massage parlors offer a happy ending.

Yes, it is a job one should not need to do yourself.

Like washing the dishes.

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The cultural disapproval of masturbation in western society comes from the christian church's desire to control all parts of daily life. The christian church decided that sex and anything to do with sexual pleasure was evil, the "original sin" was sex and sexual pleasure.This goes into the idea that abstention as a way to glorify their god for the priest class has gone well for them  In cultures that are accepting of sex and sexual pleasure as a part of life also tend to see masturbation as a part of a normal sex life.

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