Bringing a Bargirl to my country. Good or bad idea

[roorsoldja 325]

Not sure where to post so please move to the right section please ( MM , Glyn )

 

Got back home a couple of weeks ago from thailand and I'm having a hard time getting over the fact i can't come again till next year.

 

I really hit it off with a bargirl i met back in May and had a great time with her on this trip.

 

Being I only get 3 weeks off a year and i can't even get all 3 off in one go, I have an idea to bring Thailand to me.

 

Since i have 1 week vacation left for the year ( sad i know ) I'm thinking of having her come visit me here in Canada.

 

I really enjoy her company and I think it would be fun to show her around here ( day trips and stuff) Also i think she would enjoy the vacation too.

 

Her english is good and so is her sister's, the sister has done visa stuff before ( bf in USA) so she could help with that

 

NOT looking to sponcer her or anything since i can only go once a year and I'm not into the "timeshare" thing.

 

 

So what does PT think?

 

Am I a fucking idiot and it will only cause problems for me OR should i go for it since it could be fun for me and her?

 

Advice is appreciated along with anyone's personal experience with this.

 

Thanks

Edited February 26, 2011 by roorsoldja

[samfreeland 64]

nothing ventured nothing gained. great idea. you wont no how it pans out unless you try it. enjoyed your trip reports to.

[jacko 8,815]

I get the impression you had a week or maybe 2 with a bargirl in Thailand and you had a good time.

 

Now you want to bring her over to Canada......

 

Do you think you know her well enough ......?

 

Move on...

[Yzi 72]

If you bring her for short visit, month or so, you will get pretty good idea will it work for longer term. If it don't, just send her back. Just don't make hasty commitments, like visiting jewel shop for rings.

[roorsoldja 325]

nothing ventured nothing gained. great idea. you wont no how it pans out unless you try it. enjoyed your trip reports to.

that's what i ws thinking

 

I get the impression you had a week or maybe 2 with a bargirl in Thailand and you had a good time.

 

Now you want to bring her over to Canada......

 

Do you think you know her well enough ......?

 

Move on...

 

If you bring her for short visit, month or so, you will get pretty good idea will it work for longer term. If it don't, just send her back. Just don't make hasty commitments, like visiting jewel shop for rings.

 

I was just there for two weeks, but but only spent maybe 5 days with her. took her with me to bangkok. I don't plan on her staying for a month

just a couple weeks. I guess if we get along great she could stay longer but i work late hours and she would be alone for that time. not looking to get married but i'm sure it would make my father happy if i did

[cannonball83204 78]

Read the following topic from LoveDog100:

 

http://www.pattayatalk.com/forums/index.ph...c=53980&hl=

[VicVegas 70]

I was just there for two weeks, but but only spent maybe 5 days with her.

 

That's a lot of money to dish out for a girl you only spent 5 days with.

 

NOT looking to sponcer her or anything

 

But you WOULD be sponsoring her during the trip, that is you'd be paying for everything. Flying her to the other side of the world and letting her stay at your place would certainly appear to be a step toward a more serious relationship. You may not view it that way, but I'll bet she would.

 

Have you told her about your plan? Does she want to go?

[Bazle 1,491]

It might work; it might not. Just be clear that a few weeks/months together is most certainly not the same as 5 days.

 

Also, have some thought for the girl. Make sure she knows what the score is: don't raise her expectations and then let her crash. Really, by offering her the trip, you will have already raised expectations, so they will need to be lowered.

[roorsoldja 325]

That's a lot of money to dish out for a girl you only spent 5 days with.

 

 

 

But you WOULD be sponsoring her during the trip, that is you'd be paying for everything. Flying her to the other side of the world and letting her stay at your place would certainly appear to be a step toward a more serious relationship. You may not view it that way, but I'll bet she would.

 

Have you told her about your plan? Does she want to go?

 

We talked a bit about it. she has a passport. She had a boyfriend from the netherlands or wherever rotterdam is.

She was going to visit but she broke up with him( so she says ) but i see his wailing posts on her FB

She said she wants to see and play with snow and her sister said she wants to go ( i don't trust her sister about much tho )

I guess i would have to make it abundantly clear that it would just be a vacation for 2 weeks.

 

not really worried about the cost, and i pay for everything when she's with me in thailand anyways so i was planing on that.

 

thanks tho these are the questions i'm looking for.

[Grandpollo 366]

I think Canada Immigration will settle this for you as they are about as likely to grant a tourist visa as they are to give a passport to a Sasquatch.

[roorsoldja 325]

I think Canada Immigration will settle this for you as they are about as likely to grant a tourist visa as they are to give a passport to a Sasquatch.

does she even need a visa? we don't going to there country

[Dr Mick 111]

does she even need a visa? we don't going to there country

 

Is this a wind up ,sure you would know this

[rob270 5]

does she even need a visa? we don't going to there country

 

Hi Ya Buddie,

 

Yes we do need a visa. They just make it easy for some nationalities and give us 30 days at the airport, any longer and you need to apply at the embassy before you leave.

 

You are in a tough situation my friend. I feel for you. But, I'm afraid I am with the board on this. Move on.

 

The phrase "taking a fish out of water" comes to mind.

 

Sorry for the honesty.

[Stinky 12]

My first thought was, are you that fucking pathetic that you can't get a shag in your own country? Or at least a hooker? You have to import a whore to fuck you? That's pretty bad mate. Have you considered plastic surgery?

 

My second thought was, this girl must be really good at her profession. The GFE is just an act they put on. It's something you pay them for. If you don't pay them, you don't get the act. Simple. You really think she is going to come to Canada for free, and fuck your ugly ass, and not want some money for her time?

 

Lastly, you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl. You are taking a big risk bringing and known "con-artist" into your personal home. Remember, she sells her game for money. If you don't give her money, she will find a way to get compensated.

 

Good luck!

[roorsoldja 325]

Is this a wind up ,sure you would know this

nope, no wind up. i thought if you had a valid passport you could go ALMOST anywhere. Since i didn't need to acquire anything before going to thailand thought it would be same deal for thai's coming to canada. up until recently i've only travelled to USA and the Caribbean.

 

Hi Ya Buddie,

 

Yes we do need a visa. They just make it easy for some nationalities and give us 30 days at the airport, any longer and you need to apply at the embassy before you leave.

 

You are in a tough situation my friend. I feel for you. But, I'm afraid I am with the board on this. Move on.

 

The phrase "taking a fish out of water" comes to mind.

 

Sorry for the honesty.

 

Don't feel sorry, i appreciate your honesty. There's a reason I posted this. primarily for some more experienced bm's to raise questions i wouldn't think of.

[picoman 1]

I think Canada Immigration will settle this for you as they are about as likely to grant a tourist visa as they are to give a passport to a Sasquatch.

 

You missed this. Read it again.

[Stinky 12]

You missed this. Read it again.

 

 

Actually, it's not as difficult as one might think, for a Thai whore to get a Visa. It only takes about a week, if she has an invitation letter from an established business in the country of her destination.

[pattaya_mad 208]

3 weeks holiday a year? I was of the understanding Canada was a civilised country

[roorsoldja 325]

My first thought was, are you that fucking pathetic that you can't get a shag in your own country? Or at least a hooker? You have to import a whore to fuck you? That's pretty bad mate. Have you considered plastic surgery? I guess you didn't read the part of be kind.

 

Firstly yes, i can get laid in my own country thank you. And also yes i have a list of extremely hot asian escorts i can call for an hour or two of fun.

 

My second thought was, this girl must be really good at her profession. The GFE is just an act they put on. It's something you pay them for. If you don't pay them, you don't get the act. Simple. You really think she is going to come to Canada for free, and fuck your ugly ass, and not want some money for her time?

 

Yes i'm fully aware she will want money, she's doing a job. IT sounds like fun and i can afford it. I like her company, i also have "friends" that i enjoy hanging out with but i don't trust them as far as i can throw them doesn't mean there not fun to hang out with.

 

did i say i wouldn't be paying her?

 

Lastly, you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl. You are taking a big risk bringing and known "con-artist" into your personal home. Remember, she sells her game for money. If you don't give her money, she will find a way to get compensated.

 

I wouldn't call her a con artist i went to her not the other way around.

 

Good luck!

Thanks

 

p.s I wish you wouldn't beat around the bush, just tell me how you really feel.

Edited February 25, 2011 by roorsoldja

[pattaya_mad 208]

double post

Edited February 25, 2011 by pattaya_mad

[roorsoldja 325]

3 weeks holiday a year? I was of the understanding Canada was a civilised country

Tell me about it

[stevoman 2]

nope, no wind up. i thought if you had a valid passport you could go ALMOST anywhere. Since i didn't need to acquire anything before going to thailand thought it would be same deal for thai's coming to canada. up until recently i've only travelled to USA and the Caribbean.

 

 

 

Don't feel sorry, i appreciate your honesty. There's a reason I posted this. primarily for some more experienced bm's to raise questions i wouldn't think of.

 

If you truly appreciate "Honesty" then although it goes against the grain to admit it, you really should take "Stinky's" remarks to heart and get over your 5 day infatuation and move on!

[thegrim 44]

Good question and one that many people have contimplanted.

 

Firstly my personal advise is strongly avoid this step in so quickly, in most situations the only thing you want to bring back from thailand is pleasant memories.

 

A friend of mine recently learnt the hard way what can go wrong.

 

He has been in a relationship with a girl for approx 3 years that he met in a disco on Samui. She is not a young bar girl however a very fit 39 year old so she is not a young immature Bar Girl.

Anyhow they have traveled extensively throughout Thailand on at least 6 occasions, they have also twice traveled overland to Vietnam through cambodia and my friend can stay for anything up to 12 weeks at a time. This in no way is a "Summer Holiday Romance"

She has her own money and runs a small loan shark and moto hire business, she has never asked for a single baht however my friend has always been expected to cover costs during their travel. He has invested a small amount of money into her business to purchase some more scooters however this is it. There has never been requests for money for sick mama, buffalo, dog, gold fish etc etc

She has been to Australia twice and as she has sufficient funds in her account and operates a business she was not considered a risk to Australian immigration so a Visa was issued.

The first trip went well enough however during the second trip she become jealous of the fact that he shares (rents) a house with two other girls one Australian and one chinese. He's situation is that he is divorced and lost the 2 houses that he brought into the relationship as part of the settlement (that is another long sad story)

Any the situation was very bad as she become petty even when he washed up their dishes and put them away as part of the shared chore responsibilities she found a reason to be jealous of this. Many other issues arose and she eventually threatened direct violence towards "Lady China" as she put it.

She had to be restrained, and then she stormed out of the house. My friend decided that enough is enough and this was not acceptable and that despite the 3 year history this behavior was not acceptable and that she was to go back to home early. He offered to purchase a ticket to send her home, she refused this and stated that she is going to stay and cause trouble for Lady China.

In other fit of rage she decided to storm out at 2.00am in the morning and simply disappeared. A day or two later the police were on the door step with an order against him!! he then also had an order issued against her. She was moved into a womens refuge and she is now playing the system to create trouble.

 

Anyhow everyone is different however understand that this was a long term relationship over 3 years with long stay stints

He is responsible for her in Australia and she is causing him much worry,

[Stinky 12]

If you truly appreciate "Honesty" then although it goes against the grain to admit it, you really should take "Stinky's" remarks to heart and get over your 5 day infatuation and move on!

 

 

I knew there was something about you that set you apart from all the other muppets around this forum.

[GREEN MALAKA 56]

scott

 

trust me it is very difficult for a thai lady to to get a visa

for Canada

 

especially a lady who works bar